What a year! The past year has been the most difficult and overwhelming year of our lives so far. We have gone through so many unexpected trials. In sickness and in health, you have been there for me giving your all and much more. You are incredibly kind and you succeed at being so patient although I know it must be so hard. You are so humble and always put others first. You are a man of few words. As such, you epitomise the verse about your left hand not knowing what your right hand does. You never toot your own horn! You achieve and do so many amazing things in a day.
I truly admire the fact that I have never heard you complain a single time about any burden that you bear. You would be facing the toughest times at study, work and at home but you never utter a single complaint or wish for things to be different. You never moan or groan in any form of sickness, even when you were losing sleep, weight, surviving abroad alone without any help, facing the heaviest stress etc. You live with such strong hope in future grace. I hope Callum will learn this from you.
You never give up. You are such a fighter and never put off work. You are such a responsible husband, father and worker. You work extraordinarily hard and so efficiently. I love that about you. You have amazing respect for the importance of time and you have a wonderful work ethic. You are so disciplined and always try hard to do the right thing. You make no excuses ever, literally- you perform every obligation and duty so willingly. If you don't have time, you MAKE time. No one would know the time or energy constraint you have because you would never make it known. No one would know if you were tired or burning out unless we put our mind to it and consider your activities. That's how selfless you are. You are not a martyr by any means but you just don't find your own needs important at all and are so giving of yourself that it doesn't occur to you to think about yourself, let alone talk about yourself.
You live up so wonderfully to the responsibility of being the eldest in the family. You think and take care of everyone's needs. You make sure that things run smoothly. You do all the hard work behind-the-scenes. The fact that we are able to enjoy family trips and holidays is all down to your hard work running things. You plan things with such efficiency, prudence and detail that without a doubt, the decisions you make are always well-researched, cost-efficient and most convenient for everyone participating.
You have a unique sense of humor which I have learned to understand through the years. I love that you are not complicated as a person. You are very easy to please and not imposing in the slightest way. You do not have many opinions about unimportant and relative matters which is again so admirable. Because of that, when you actually speak at length about something, I know it's always something immensely important, filled with wisdom and insightful. Most of the time it is about important principles and absolute things like God, family, education, attitudes, improving, growing and raising our child.
You are an educator by nature but your timing is flawless. You don't impose your knowledge on others but are so willing to impart wisdom when the time is right. You are so approachable and humble that I wish to be your student. In fact, I was in a big way throughout my studies. You were the best informal tutor I ever had!
Because you don't talk about yourself or ask for anything, it can be so easy to take you for granted or pass your needs up for others who are more vocal and expressive. It can easily be assumed that the stoic exterior that flows from your ethic towards hard work and discipline that you want for nothing and have no need for softness or emotions. But I know better. :) You have such a soft gooey middle (heart!), in fact you have the softest heart among everyone I know. You never ask for anything ever in return but I know it doesn't take a lot to make you happy. Your heart is overjoyed over simple gestures such as a hug (which I know you rarely get apart from me! I wish more people would hug you just for kicks!), a word of encouragement and approval, a plate of your favourite food, a silly joke, some good music and small surprises.
I pray and hope that I can be the best helper to you and meet your unspoken needs with much love, understanding, good food and silly humor. To just be around and show you that I appreciate all your sacrificial love which reaches more depths than words could ever do.
Happy birthday to my biggest blessing from God, the best friend one could ever have and a wonderful husband and father!
I love you!
Lovely afternoon tea courtesy of wonderful Lou Ye and Onn Ngen!
I love you!
Finally, a proper steak experience for you! :)
Your favourites rolled into one- Pandan cake topped with custard and fresh fruit!
Lovely afternoon tea courtesy of wonderful Lou Ye and Onn Ngen!
Onn Ngen's Apple Walnut Cake with Cream Cheese Frosting
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