Reflections

The biggest thing I love about this wedding is how we complemented each other throughout the planning process. It was so much fun for us. We spent the entire week before the wedding basically chilling out. It was just so enjoyable for us to see our friends, play board games, go swimming and the husband and emcee/brother-in-law got to enjoy a buffet breakfast before the wedding began! Haha. I read the newspaper and got mad about politics before heading up to the room to hang around with my bridesmaids and eat chicken rice! It was just so so fun!

Also, when pleasant surprises came about like the boatload of things thrown in for free, how wonderful the flowers turned out, and many other coincidences just made both of us smile and sometimes cheer. :) We got to enjoy these moments together because we were both headed in the same direction. It is like the story my father-in-law told us about during the drive up to Penang for the wedding. My in-laws were wonderful enough to volunteer to drive us up and we had a lovely time listening to sermons in the car and my father-in-law gave us a pre-wedding sermon/words of wisdom which we will hold dear to our lives until we see the Lord I hope.

'Do not be unequally yoked' was the main message in three parts: Spiritually, emotionally and financially. Being equally yoked spiritually is for obvious reasons. Being equally yoked emotionally is not expecting each other to solve the emotional problems. It is the worst thing when one person is down and the other does not understand. Then one person bears the weight. Instead, we must help each other through the crisis by listening or praying because most emotional problems have no answers. So, we should not expect instant cures to emotional problems but to carry the weight through together. Being equally yoked financially means something different than what we think. Since money is the root of all evil, it does not mean that we should flee from it but that we must manage it so that we do not give it a chance to become a cause of evil or discord in our family.

The wedding drew us as a family so much closer together. We got to know many new family members from far and near, we got to catch up and learn new things about each other. We got to taste my husband's eldest grandaunt's famous kaya. It is the smoothest, most luxuriest and rich Kaya (pun not intended) I have ever tasted. She brought along some 'Roti Bengali' which once spreaded on once, has the most Pringle-like effect (once you pop, you never stop). We each had about 4 slices each! We learnt about traditions and tasted amazing Marriage biscuits which I never knew existed.

Most of all, it bonded us together in love and excitement. Two birthdays in the family were celebrated across the wedding season. Such are moments that we will cherish for always.